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Letting Go

In January I wrote a post about Determination during 2011. I specifically mentioned 10 things I resolve to do this year. My idea today is to break down resolution number one and hopefully over the next few weeks, looking more deeply into all 10. By making a point to know and understand my resolutions, maybe they will have a better opportunity of become a reality.

Have you ever hurt anyone? I’m not saying on purpose. Or maybe it was.Ever used harsh words, unkind actions, made intentionally bad decisions that affected someone you care about? Sometimes, even, done or said something that caused someone pain and you didn’t even know about it. Confession: I have done all of the above. 

And the hardest thing about it, is asking for forgiveness. Admitting fault, putting on my big girl pants and hoping to make amends.

Ever ask for forgiveness and not receive it? Ever been held accountable for something you didn’t even know you did?

Power without love is reckless and abusive….. Power at it’s best is love implementing the demands of justice. Dr Martin Luther King Jr

Wielding the power to forgive or not to forgive is a decision everyone will make. We will all be hurt unnecessarily. We will be in the path of someone’s angry words, harsh actions and bad decisions. My hope this year is that I can use the power of forgiveness in love. I resolve to give the kind of justice that was handed to me by my God.

I am going to let go of the opportunity to hold a hurt over someone’s head. I’m not going to let anger make decisions for me. I am not going to decide that my system of justice is better than God’s. I am going to lovingly forgive someone who doesn’t deserve it.

This isn’t going to be easy. I am going to want someone to hurt as much as I hurt. I am going to want someone to feel the pain I feel. I will want someone to be held responsible for their actions. That is why, the power of forgiveness is so huge. That is why this will not only free someone to know love, it will also change me.

Can you resolve to let go?



Determined to do something; is the definition of resolve. Is that how you would define your resolutions?

Here we are at the beginning of a new year. New Beginnings. Opportunity surrounds you with the chance to be all you have dreamed of being. Are you planning to lose a few pounds, start taking the classes you have always said you were going to take, pick up that new hobby or learn a new language? Maybe it’s bigger for you: overcome an addiction, free yourself from the bondage of pornography, resolve to reconcile with a spouse, or spend more time with your children.

There seems to be a growing belief that making resolutions doesn’t work. So we make up new buzz words;  this year the word is committment. “What are you committing to do in 2011?” It seems to me there is one common denominator and it doesn’t matter how we package it: we set ourselves up to fail. Determination is rarely the way we would define our resolutions. How do we do it differently? How do we change the way we have always done things? Change our perspective. Become determined about who you are.

Here is my list of resolutions this year. My thought is that each of the things I do in 2011 will line up with one of these values in my life.

1)Forgive someone who doesn’t deserve it. You will immediately change someones life by letting go.

2)Compromise. Ask yourself if being right is more important than the relationship. Sometimes we just gotta let go.

3)Invest time & energy into your potential. And in the potential of those around you. See the possibilities.

4) Commit to your commitments. Give 100% to 10 things not 10% to 100 things. It is ok to say NO.

5) Find opportunities to succeed and potentially  fail. Know how great you are & give yourself the chance to learn.

6) Enjoy the journey. Laughter, tears, joy, heartache, overcoming & pain. All of it is your story to tell, don’t miss it.

7) Prioritize. Know the things that are important to you. The way you spend your time tells more of your priorities than words alone.

8) Give without expectation. Be willing to give time, money, resources to those who can’t repay you.

9) Be a part of community. Have a place where masks are taken off  and you can be you. Create a place of love, acceptance & accountability.

10) Live Passionately. Life is an adventure. Don’t let the world cookie cut you. Live your adventure.

How can you change your perspective? Can you define your resolution with determination? What values will define you in 2011?

This post, Determination, was original posted on the Canvas Church blog Canvas Rhapsody.

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